Team Lightskin

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So, I was at a friend’s house recently and he mentioned something about “team light skin.” I didn’t know what he was talking about so I decided to research the origin of this “team” thing.

Apparently, last year, there was a college party with the theme dark skin vs. light skin. This party started a trend in social media where people of color divide themselves by skin tone, #teambrownskin, #teamdarkskin and #teamlightskn. There is even divisiveness among each team, where people are derided for not being light enough to be on #teamlightskin. This makes me so sick.

Black people, please stop perpetuating Willie Lynch Syndrome. We need to stand together if we want to progress as a people. Why is skin color such a hangup for us? We need to lift each other up, not tear each other down. I am going to make a video to address this..

Beauty comes in all shades! Look at Iman-she is one of the most beautiful people on the planet!!! I swoon for her..

Anyway whether you are on #teamlightskin or #teamdarkskin it’s #notagoodlook!

Rescue Dogs!

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Yesterday, I volunteered with Ace of Hearts Dog Rescue.  Dogs are beautiful creatures with such huge hearts! I don’t understand how people can abandon them. Millions of dogs are euthanized each year because of shelter overpopulation.

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A great way to help is to adopt a dog instead of buying one from a pet store or breeder.

You can also help by fostering a dog or helping out at a shelter or pet rescue! You get to meet really great dogs and make a big difference in their lives!

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I am OBSESSED with Pink Hair!

I love brightly colored hair. I have been since I was in middle school. I’ve used everything from manic panic to kool aid. I have had hair every color of the rainbow. Pink has always been my favorite and I used to have pink highlights in college. Once I gradated, I had to be more conservative in my hair choices..but now that I’m not working anymore my hair choices are no longer constrained by corporate rules. In my post, I Want This Hair! I was super inspired by a photo that I saw online.

One of my beautiful followers offered to make a pink wig for me to satisfy my urge!! Her name is Zita and her website is www.tizami.com  The awesome thing about her is, she is an accountant by day, but hair is her passion!! I love it when people follow their dreams!!

So I had to measure my head (it is a lot bigger than I thought hahaha) and now I just have to wait!!

Haters and Trolls

Having a vlog can be so much fun. I feel like I am making a difference in some people’s lives by sharing my knowledge and experiences with them.

I love getting mail from people letting me know that what I am doing helps them or that something I said gave them a new outlook on life. I love answering questions and being a positive influence. I appreciate every kind word and every thanks that I get.

I also appreciate any time that someone corrects or educates me. I am not perfect, nor am I infallible and I take constructive criticism seriously.

Hating, on the other hand,  I really don’t pay attention to at all. I advise you to do the same. I don’t really take down negative comments unless someone asks me to. I believe in free speech and if someone chooses to waste their time by watching videos on a subject that they hate, and then making a negative comment on them, that is their choice. I have had many loyal viewers fight against trolls and haters for me..but you don’t have to. If they don’t get the attention that they are seeking, then they usually migrate to a different channel with more troll food..

There are times when I do respond. Sometimes ignorance is the cause of anger and hatred other times it is fear. If I believe that I could help someone by disspeling their fear or ignorance, then I will take a few moments to try. Also, if I think that what I may say will help others, I will respond.

Please don’t let the haters bring you down and please don’t stoop to their level. The best way to deal with a hater is to keep up your positivity!

The Bourne Legacy

Ok. I just finished watching “The Bourne Legacy.” I haven’t been this disappointed in a film since “The Expendables.” Where is the action? Where is the combat? This film was too slick for it’s own good. I loved the “Bourne” series because it was gritty and had constant action. With “Legacy,” I felt as if I had to wait until the very end of the movie to see some action. No wonder Matt Damon didn’t want to do this movie.

12/14/12

My heart goes out to all of the people who were affected by the tragedy today. 

I wonder if there really is a solution? Gun reform? Better mental health services? More security at schools? Who should be held accountable? 

This is so unsettling because I’m not sure that anyone has the answers…

Atlantis High

Have you ever heard of the TV show Atlantis High? It is a zany show from New Zealand  about a boy that goes to a less than normal high school. I used to love this show when I was in high school. It also gave me interesting insight as to how people view Americans.
 I wish that there were more shows like this for the kids today. It seems like all of the shows geared towards young people encourage them to look and act like disney show cutouts.
It is ok to be unique!

I Want This Hair!!

I was tooling around the internet and I happened upon this page. I immediately fell in love with her hair!! I want it soooo bad. What do you think??!?!

Alina Friesen - Finalist BC Hairstylist of the Year - 2012 Mirror Awards

Hairstyling: Alina Friesen from A Michael Levine Salon Group
Wardrobe and Styling: Wendy Cook
MUA: Jena Jacquot-Boisvenu
Model: Dana Maye
Photography: Kale JF Photography

Shopping While Black

Sometimes I forget how prevalent racism is in America. I don’t often experience it, but when I do, it’s like a slap in the face, or a punch in the stomach. It is a swift reminder that my brown skin is seen as a label. Sometimes the label has positive connotations, such as “singer”, “dancer” or “athlete.” Other times it can be more sinister.

Today, my label was “thief.” My sister, husband and I went to Sephora. I ran out of lip gloss and had to restock. I love makeup and can spend hours checking out new colors and gaining inspiration for new looks. As I got lost in the world of shadows and glosses, I forgot that I was guilty of shopping while black.
As I surveyed my choices, a large man loomed in the distance. He slowly approached us asking if we needed help. I said “no thank you” and continued to ponder. My sister (who used to work at Sephora) then informed me that the man who approached us was actually an Loss Prevention officer. I was incensed! So I decided to call his bluff…”actually I do need help.”
 I explained to him that I was bored of my current lip color. I want something that pops and I am not especially fond of red. He looked painfully confused, mumbled something, and pointed at red lip gloss. I reminded him that I do not like red so then he chose a very pale pink gloss that would look awful on me. It became quite obvious that he didn’t know anything about makeup. It also became obvious what he was doing there.
However, today’s experience didn’t dishearten me. In fact it strengthened me and it strengthened my resolve to change the negative perception of black people in our society.